Don't Wait to Reach Out

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I re-learned a tough lesson today, one that I should know by heart by now:

Don't wait to reach out to someone.

I discovered today that the author of a family history book, which included members of our common Gilbride family, passed away last year. I found her obituary instead of an address that I was seeking when I googled her.

I got excerpts of her book from a library in California, but didn't think to write to her until recently. Her address was in the book, but it is 30 years old. But I wrote the letter anyway, and was just going to send it to that address I have. (I've had luck doing that—I once got an answer to a letter sent to an address I found in a probate notice in a newspaper from the 80s—and the person was still living there!) I was hoping to connect, as I run across so few Gilbride researchers. I wanted to share with her some of my recent discoveries. And I had hoped to get a copy of her book.

Now I'm sending that letter, with sympathies, to her husband. At least he will know that her research was appreciated.

"Don't wait to reach out to someone," of course, also goes for those friends we keep meaning to catch up with, the relatives we keep putting off contacting, etc. 

For those of who do genealogical research, sharing those precious bits of family history learned is vital to continuing and expanding our research. What knowledge did the author learn since she wrote her book 30 years ago? What bits didn't make it into her book but were stored in her memory only? I'll never know. As they say, when a person dies it's like a library burning down.

So, reach out to those fellow family researchers. And friends. And relatives. Take it from me, time may be shorter than you think.

Until next time...

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